Zena Costa, independent sports mgmt prof and writer on how men can help their loved ones, in their time of need.

RAPE: What MEN can to do in case of a female friend or relative is raped ?

This is by no means a comprehensive list. However, here are some of the basic ways you can support your relative or friend if she has been raped:

If she comes to you for help immediately after the rape:

  • Ensure that she doesn’t wash herself as it could wash away evidence.
  • Call YOUR Parents/elders, anybody she can be comfortable with, and a person who can help you too.
  • Accompany her to the hospital Emergency Room or the police station immediately – whichever is closest.
  • Help her fill in all the required forms.
  • Request for a female doctor or police officer to tend to her if she is too traumatised to speak.
  • Contact the nearest women’s shelter or rape centre for support and advice on what to do next.
  • File a FIRST INFORMATION REPORT.

Other ways of providing support:

  • Don’t blame and never judge her – be supportive.
  • Help her get counseling sessions with a professional.
  • Accompany her to counseling sessions should she request it.
  • Accompany her to follow-up check-up appointments with the doctor.
  • Remind her that it was not her fault in any way. She did not ask for it.
  • Be a patient listener. Let her tell you the story, or if not, just be there for her.
  • If she is experiencing post-traumatic stress disorder, make it a point to check in on her regularly to ensure her safety and prevent suicide.
  • If she has children or other dependents, offer to babysit them when she has to go to court, to the counseling session or the doctor’s appointment.
  • Support her when she files charges against the perpetrator.
  • Accompany her to the court trial/hearings if the case is brought to court and should she request that you do so.

Important contact information of NGOs and Government Cells in Delhi:

NGOS Involved In Combating Violence Against Women
S.No. Name & Address Phones
1. ALL INDIA WOMEN’S CONFERENCE 
6, Bhagwan Das Road, New Delhi Ph :
web: aiwc.org.in
23381165, Fax: 23384092
2. JWP JOINT WOMEN’S PROGRAMME 
CISRS House, 14, Jangpura-B Mathura Road, New Delhi – 110 014
24314821, Fax: 24313660
3. STREEBAL 
B-5/19, Safdarjung Enclave, New Delhi – 24
web : www.streebal.com
26164113, Fax: 26160279
4. YWCA
10, Parliament Street, New Delhi – 1
web : www.ywcaindia.org
23340294, Fax: 23342220
5. SHAKTI SHALINI
6/30 B, Jangpura-B, New Delhi – 14
24312483, Fax: 24322220
6. SAKSHI 
B-64, First Floor, South Extension -II New Delhi – 49
web : www.sakshingo.org
24643946, 24623295, Fax: 24643946
7. JAGORI 
C-54, Top Floor, South Extension-II New Delhi – 49
Web: jagori.org
26257015, Fax: 26253629/7755
8. NARI RAKSHA SAMITI 
Raj Niwas Marg, Civil Lines, Delhi – 54
23973949, Fax: 23973949
9. NIRANTAR 
B-64, 2nd Floor, Sarvodaya Enclave New Delhi – 17
web : www.nirantar.net
26966334, 26517726
10. PRATIDHI
Police Station Complex, Shakarpur Pushta Marg, Ramesh Park, Delhi – 92
web : www.pratidhi.org
22527259, 22450100 Ext.6784
11. MARG 
205-206, 2nd Floor, Shahpur Jat New Delhi – 49
web : www.ngo-marg.org
26497483, 26496925
12. LAWYERS’ COLLECTIVE 
63/2, FF Masjid RD Jangpura Extension New Delhi – 14
Web: lawyerscollective.org
24316925, 24313904
13. DELHI BROTHERHOOD SOCIETY 
Brotherhood House 7, Court Lane New Delhi – 54
23931432, Fax: 23981025
14. MAHILA DAKSHATA SAMITI 
19, Fire Brigade Lane, Opp. Campa Cola Factory Connaught Place, New Delhi
web : www.mahiladakshatasamiti.org
23412067
15. HUMAN RIGHTS LAW NETWORK 
65, 2nd Floor, Jangpura, New Delhi
web : www.hrln.org
24316922, 24324503
16. NAVJYOTI 
Vikas Bhawan Sanjay Amar Colony Yamuna Pushta, Delhi – 6
web : www.navjyoti.org.in
23866316, 23866403, Fax: 23866312
17. PRAYATAN 
E-103, Kalkaji, New Delhi – 19
26415831, 26022849
18. ANGAJA FOUNDATION 
A-7, Amrit Nagar, Behind South Extension-I New Delhi – 49
web : http://www.angaja.org/
24645021, 24645022
19. CENTRE FOR SOCIAL RESEARCH (CSR) 
2, Institutional Area, Nelson Mandela Marg C-1, Vasant Kunj, New Delhi – 70
Web: csrindia.org
26899998, 26125583, Fax: 2613782
20. MAHILA MANDAL INDL COOPERATIVE SOCIETY LTD 
961, Mangolpuri, Delhi – 110083
+(91)-(11)-27918021
21. SANJEEVANI VOLUNTARY ORGANISATION 
A-6, Satsang Vihar MG, Qutab Institutional Area, Delhi – 110016
+(91)-(11)-26864488
22. DELHI COMMISSION FOR WOMEN 
2ND FLR,Vikas Bhwn, C-BLK, Darya Ganj, Delhi – 110002
+(91)-(11)-23378122
23. SANJEEVANI SOCIETY FOR MENTAL HEALTH 
Shopping Cnetre, Jungpura Side, Defence Colony, Delhi – 110024
+(91)-(11)-24311918
24. KHAZANI WOMENS POLYTECHNIC 
34/18, NR PNB, Devli RD, Khanpur, Delhi – 110062
web : www.khazaniwomenpolytechnic.com
+(91)-(11)-41653687
25. JAGORI WOMEN RESOURCE CENTRE 
B-114, Shivalik, Malviya Nagar, Delhi – 110017
+(91)-(11)-26691219
26. SAHARA NGO
E-453, Part-II, Greater Kailash, Delhi – 110048
+(91)-(11)-26219147
27. DELHI MAHILA KALYAN SAMITI 
48, Nr D Blk, Institutional Area, Janak Puri, Delhi – 110058
+(91)-(11)-28522851
28. SEWA BHARAT 
7/5,1st Flr, South Patel Nagar, Delhi – 110008
+(91)-(11)-25840937
29. TARSHI HELPLINE 
A-91,1st Flr, Amrit Puti, East Of Kailash, Delhi – 110065
web : www.tarshi.net
+(91)-(11)-26472229
30. CATHOLIC RELIEF SERVICES 
139, Shopping Cplx, Zamrudpur, Delhi – 110048
Web: crs.org
+(91)-(11)-47674220
31. INDIAN SOCIAL SECURITY 
113, Mohan Singh Place, Cp, Delhi – 110001
web : www.indiansocialsecurity.org
+(91)-(11)-43077786
32. SHAKTI VAHINI 
H-11 ,Second Floor, Hudson Lane,Kingsway Camp, Delhi
web : www.shaktivahini.org
9582909025, 42870188

33. Deep Jyoti- Neelam Sharma (Founder)

Address: Village Bagdola, (Choppar) Sector-8, Dwarka Delhi-110073

Tel: +919311001137, 011-65751671

Email: jyoti.mission@gmail.com Website: http://www.deepjyotingo.com

Shelter Homes For Women
S.No. Name & Address Capacity Phones
1. ALL INDIA WOMEN’S CONFERENCE’S
‘Bapnu Ghar, 6, Bhagwan Das Road, New Delhi
30-35 23381377,23389680
2. MAHILA DAKSHATA SAMITI’S
‘Snehalaya’, 31 X, Karkardooma, Near Central School, Delhi
25 22145113
3. PRAYAS(Juvenile Home for 6-18 years)
59, Tughlakabad Institutional Area, New Delhi
70-100 29956244
29051103
4. YOUNG WOMEN’S CHRISTIAN ASSOCIATION (YMCA)
10, Parliament Street, New Delhi-1
12 43553142
5. MATRITVA CHHAYA

  1. Sarai Rohella, Near Andh Mugh Police Station, Partap Nagar, Near Metro Station, Delhi
  2. Jahangir Puri, Near Metro Station and Mahindra Park, Police Station Jahangir Puri, Delhi
6 223820509971802146
6. NIRMAL CHHAYA COMPLEX
Jail Road, Janak Puri, New Delhi
50 26520114
7. PREMALAYA
Mayur Vihar, Phase-I, New Delhi
20 23344435
27010116
Crime Against Women Cells (CAW Cells)
S.No. Name/ Address Phone
1. HEADQUARTER 
Special Police Unit for Women & Children, Nanakpura, Moti Bagh New Delhi
24673366
2. NORTH DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell
P.S. Sarai Rohilla, Ist Floor, Delhi-7,
23962201
3. NORTH-WEST DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell P.S. Pitampura, Delhi-52
27232353
4. NORTH-EAST DISTRICT 
Crime Against Women Cell. Old Building of PS Nand Nagri, Delhi.
22137210
5. CENTRAL DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell
P.S. Prasad Nagar Delhi.
25737951 Ext. 7411
6. NEW DELHI DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell
Parliament Street, New Delhi-1,
23361231 Ext. 3447
7. SOUTH DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell,
Old PS Malviya Nagar Building,
Behind PVR Saket, New Delhi
26562731
8. SOUTH – WEST DISTRICT 
Crime Against Women Cell PS Dwarka Sector 9, First Floor, Near ITL Public School, New Delhi.
25088987
9. SOUTH – EAST DISTRICT
Crime Against Women Cell, PP Sriniwas Puri, New Delhi
26841500
10. EAST DISTRICT 
Crime Against Women Cell P.S. Krishna Nagar, Delhi,
22207950
11. WEST DISTRICT 
Crime Against Women Cell P.S. Kirti Nagar, New Delhi
25447100 Ext. 4205
12. OUTER DISTRICT 
Crime Against Women Cell, Old Police Station Building, Near JIMS Institute, Sector 3, Rohini, Delhi
27511753

Above mentioned details have been taken from Special Police Unit for Women & Children, Delhi

List of NGOs and Government-run organizations working against Domestic Violence in Mumbai: 

  1. Action India
  2. Akshara- A women’s Resourse Centre
  3. Asha Sadan
  4. Bapnu Ghar
  5. Bapu Trust
  6. Bharatiya Mahila Federation
  7. CORO for Literacy
  8. Community Outreach Programme
  9. Jagori
  10. Kasturba Mahila Vasatigruha
  11. Lawyer’s Collective women’s Right initiative
  12. Mahila Dakshata Samiti
  13. MASUM-Mahila Sarvangeen Utkarsha Mandal
  14. MAVA- Men against violence and Abuse
  15. Sakhya Anti-dowry and Women’s guidance cell
  16. Special Cell for Women and Children
  17. The Hindu Women’s Welfare Society-Shraddhanand MAhila Ashram
  18. Women’s Research & Action Group

Do share with us links on useful links, websites and lists of NGOs to update this post.

Comments
  1. Zena says:

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  2. Himanshu Gupta says:

    I appriciate ur work as u have mentioned each n every minor and major step. Another thing when you will file case you will be definately threatened as by that ur image will be spoilt , ur family members may come into trouble , people may ask you irreleveant questions which may make u damn uncomfortable , but always remember don’t look backward becouse ur silence can affect a lot.

  3. Arun Arora says:

    Damini ne bhi aaj himmat har kar balidan diya hai par uska yeh balidan vyarth nahi jana chahiye jin darindo ne yeh harkat ki hai unke hath per katwa kar unhe jinda rakh kar gale mein kute ka patta dal kar alag alag jagah ke nukad chouraho ke urinals ke bahar bandh kar roz ki ek nai maut do aur live tv channel news mein daily dikhao taki koi aisi harkat karne ki himmat na kare jisko dekh kar har insaan ki ruh kamp uthe in ko dekh kar yeh msg. Har jagah share karo jisse yeh msg. Har jagah pahuche aur unko yeh saza mile. Jai Hind

  4. raj says:

    Respected madam and sir i know a girl who stay in kalyan maharastra she tld me about her story but it was happen with her when she was 16year old and now she is 30year she have been rape by 3 men so many time but she cant do anythg coz thy made d flim of her and she have been rape by her uncle since childhood but she want all of them to get punish will u hlep her if yes pls mail me she have mentaly n phisicaly tource by her uncle n dat 3 men she noe her name pls hlep if u can wating for ur mail

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