Archive for December, 2012


I wrote this post while traveling since my mind cannot rest. Since the current incidents have assured me that nobody else but ME has to take charge of my own safety. 

She has a guy with her, she is safe-> is one of the common notions, which a lot of women have. But the recent Delhi Rape case proved it wrong and has brought the brutal truth in front of us. No doubt having a guy while you’re traveling late night or through a dingy area is good but to entirely depend on them is NOT.

Everyday I see a lot of girls making claims that they are safe since they have a boyfriend, even if they are living away from home. They have a guy to protect them and fight for them. What they don’t realize is that the guy is not going to be there 24/7 and the guy doesn’t ensure safety. Instead of relying on a guy for one’s safety, women of today need to take charge of their safety to themselves.

Girls/Women/Kids need to be self-sufficient that they can kick balls of anyone who tries to misbehave. Women need to be mentally strong and should know atleast basic self-defense techniques. They need to learn how to get out of some tricky situations or how to use their bags/phones/magazines as a tool for safety. They need to have the inner self-confidence and let it reflect on their faces. They need to be mentally prepared to face the worst of situations alone. Even woman needs to set an example for others and show the men that they’re not feeble, they will not keep quiet, they will stand up for themselves.

Apart from this, we hear about a lot of cases where a boyfriend or a husband is the cause of the sexual assault or molestation or physical damage. Women need to learn to stand up for themselves and not face any kind of violence or misbehavior. There is peer pressure or family pressure, but if you don’t stand for yourselves; nobody else will.

Break the rules, but say NO to Injustice. Say NO to misbehavior. Say NO to anything that pulls you down.

More power to the Women community!

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Posted: December 29, 2012 by sakshikumarindia in Uncategorized


Guest post by Saurin Parikh, an advertising entrepreneur and a writer: 

It’s been nearly two weeks since the gang rape in Delhi, and the country remains abuzz with outrages & protests over the very unfortunate incident. In fact, calling it ‘unfortunate’ seems like an understatement. It just shouldn’t have happened. Rapes and sexual abuses of any kind shouldn’t happen even once, but the fact that they happen with such frequency is alarming and disheartening.

We can’t begin to fathom what goes through the mind of a man who rapes a woman. What is even more difficult to understand is what goes through the mind of the woman who is being raped. A rape leaves scars that cannot be seen and cannot be healed. No one else but the victim can know what these emotional scars feel like. Which is probably why we outage where we can.

However, it would be wrong if we stopped at merely outraging and protesting. People are taking to the streets and forcing the government out of inaction, but that’s never going to be enough. You and I are definitely not going to do anything that will change the apathetic behaviour of our police force or the selfish nature of our politicians, but what we can change is our own outlook.

We can stop being indifferent, and help someone in need. The girl fought with all her will, she received the finest medical treatment in India and even in Singapore, but to no avail. We woke up today morning to the news of her death, to the news of another blossoming life ending abruptly, and cruelly. There have been reports that she and her friend had been lying on the roads of Delhi after being thrown out of the bus for nearly 3 hours. I am appalled at the rapists, but I am more appalled at everybody else who saw them lying there but chose to ignore them. Why didn’t even one person help them? I am sure her life would have been saved if she had received medical attention sooner. In cases like these, a few minutes can make a world of a difference. She was left unattended for 3 hours.

We protest over the government inaction, we outrage over the mindset of the rapists, but we forget to blame those bystanders who didn’t help the girl when she needed it the most. What would you have done? Ordinarily, most of us would have chosen to look the other way as well. And this is exactly what we need to change.

Next time you come across a situation of eve teasing, physical abuse or harassment of any kind, don’t look the other way. We can stop ourselves from turning a blind eye to such situations, something that we usually do. It’ll be tough, we might get into a fight, we might get harassed by the police, we might be at the risk of causing harm to ourselves, but if we really want things to change, we have got to be the ones to initiate it. We can’t sit back and blame the government for not doing enough, we aren’t doing enough either.

A lot of crimes are committed because the culprit knows that in 9 cases out of 10, the victim will receive no help from the people around them. It’s time for us to bring that ratio down. Outrage on the internet as much as you want, protests on the streets as much as you can, but when faced with a real situation, make sure you help a probable victim from turning into a victim. That will be one less life ruined and one less incident to outrage about.


Guest post by Ayesha Sultana, an advocate working on the case of rape of Hindu minors in Umerkot.

I, as an advocate have always had an extremely tedious time in writing about sexual violence perpetuated upon children.

These particular cases are alarming as this is indicative of a systemic violence in terms of addressing reported cases of sexual assault of minors in religious minority communities of Pakistan. I assume this is a systemic problem as 2 cases of minor from same district has come forward, so I am not sure if there are more incident which havent been reported at all.

I guess this is becoming a trend for Pakistan Peoples Party [PPP] where they have turned out to be one of the biggest violators of women rights and human rights. They do claim to be “liberal” and “progressive” in their values but their actions are far worst than imaginable.

After the case of Rinkle Kumari and Mian Mithoo [MP] who is fiercely protected by PPP, the person who is responsible for abduction, rape and forcible conversion of Rinkle. Sharjeel Memon [MP] also got away with the same incident in 2010 in Nagarparker. When that survivor and her family had gone on hunger strike outside the Hyderabad press club, Sharmila Farooqui [MP] was sent to them to pressure them to drop the case. Now we have new cases of Hindu minor girls who were sexually assaulted in Sindh by a local political worker.

The reason we were getting conflicting reports is because there are two rape incidents of minors from Umerkot. One of V who is 6yrs old, other one is who is 14 yrs old.

[1] Both the cases of assault are politically connected to the leading govt in the same district.

[2] The reason I have decided not to use the name of 14yr old survivor as her family is facing an extremely tough time due to her rapists’ political connection.

Vi is 6-year-old daughter of labourer Munwar Meghwar, residing in Ghulam Nabi Shah a small town of district Umerkot. She was sexually assaulted on evening of 4th December 2012, she was playing in the street in front of her house from where she was abducted. She was admitted at civil hospital Mirpurkhas with number of complications and is under treatment till 11 December. After being unsatisfied with doctors’ performance they were sent to Karachi after further protests.

Her initial forensic reports were rejected by the incharge officer and they have sent her blood spotted shalwar [trouser] to Lahore Forensic Laboratory on December 24th. We were informed by survivor’s uncle that alleged perpetrator and his henchmen are political workers of Pakistan Muslim League (Functional) and its spiritual head – Pir Saheb Pagaro. Pir is the most powerful person of the province and has armed groups. Muhammad Mangrio also derives his political clout form his brother-in-law, the former town Nazim (Chairman) of the Borough and has very close links with the Pakistan Military

The second case of sexual assault of minor was reported on December 23rd. After verification from official sources, its FIR no 61/12 u/s 354 ppc on the complaint of “Bheel” against 3 accused. “Bheel” are scheduled caste Hindus and unfortunately in rural Sindh, sexual assault of minor girls in their community is common due to their minority status.The application of innocuous sec 354 Pakistan Penal Code (PPC) clearly shows malafide as its bailable and it would further aggravate things for the victim.

The accused names are Aziz, Majeed & Maroof. The case is high-profile as mentioned earlier as one of the accused involved is the local leader of PPP while the other accused belongs to powerful and influential “Rind” clan in Sindh.

The survivor’s father and other community members went to Chachro taluka hospital for a medical checkup, but the doctors refused to carry it out without a FIR. When the father asked the police to file a FIR, they also refused. “We are very poor,” the father said. “It is an injustice against our daughter. We need justice but no one is willing to cooperate.”

After raping the Hindu minor & not getting any forensics done, there was an attempt to kidnap her too. The survivor is a Bheel — not just Hindu, but a scheduled caste Hindu. The rape of children from scheduled castes is very common in Sindh.

[Note: December 27th: No medico-legal exam aka rape kit has been performed on the 14yr old rape survivor from Umerkot]

Sindh Police is not helping rape survivor in Umerkot case as SSP of the district is brother of Ayaz Soomro, who is a member of PPP, aka law minister.

The two prominent journalists of the area, Arbab Bheel of Dharti TV and Mushtaq Qamber of Daily Sindh Express, have been threatened by the alleged perpetrator, Muhammad Mangrio, over the telephone and later in person by his henchmen that if they come to his place for further reporting they would be killed.

Child sexual abuse is one of the horrendous crimes which can be inflicted upon anyone. Minority Hindus in rural Sindh have been targeted with abduction, sexual violence and forced religious conversions, it’s about time, the civil society of Pakistan stood up against this madness against the ruling party of Pakistan for systemically protecting rapists.

We are appealing to local population to provide security to both families so that they can protected from further political persecution or police harassment in Umerkot in Sindh. We want Pakistani people to call their MPs and register their complaint with them. We want everyone outside of Pakistan to call respective Pakistani embassies and high commissions all over the world and ensure that justice is provided to both survivors of child sexual abuse.

These are not just simple cases of violence as they are indicative of systemic violence perpetuated by the leading political party and its misuse of power. They have been misusing their powers in rural areas of Sindh and perpetuating violence on Sindhi Hindus for quiet sometime now. It’s about time they were held accountable and brought to justice for protecting rapists and establishing culture of rape apologia.

Lets challenge systemic violence everywhere!

Reported Sources:

http://www.causes.com/actions/1714231?recruiter_id=60551107&utm_campaign=invite&utm_medium=wall&utm_source=fb

http://tribune.com.pk/story/483208/political-worker-accused-of-raping-hindu-girl/

 

If anyone needs any information; they can speak with me I have been in touch with the family.

1. The 2nd survivor name as confirmed by SSP, her name is not released to all sources of media, so I am not releasing her name here.

2. My source of information are SSP with Sindh Police, uncle of V Meghawar, Express Tribune, local grassroots NGO SEWA


Guest blog by Prashanth Kagali:
Rape means, “the crime, typically committed by a man, of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will.”
I am a positive person and would love to inspire people and get inspired from them. But I have no idea how to inspire a girl who is raped. I feel shame even to approach considering the resentment she would be having against men, which is perfectly right on her part.
When fathers are raping their own daughters, there is no way a girl can trust any man. Even animals would not do this kind of heinous act. As the above definition goes, rape is something that is forced onto another person, against their will. Being a guy if someone forces me to do a simple thing as eating something, which is against my will, I reject it in the strongest of terms. I may never understand what a girl goes through and how it feels for her when someone rapes her, but forcing someone against their will even for smallest of things is just not respecting that person what he or she is.
What needs to be done?
Enough is written about the Rape incidents and its good people are talking and writing more about it. We always have to address the root cause of any problem. Here is where the education comes into picture. Education means not only what is taught at school but also at home. Parents have to teach their male children how to respect girls and how to treat them.
If only these Rape incidents have to end, then every parent should handover their son, a rapist, to the police and ensure strict action is taken. Tell me, how many parents or sisters or brothers would treat their sons or brothers with the same anger as they treat with any other rapist? It’s all about taking a stand.
We cannot live peacefully in a world if one tries to dominate the other. It’s all about giving respect to the other sex. Men need to be educated about the pain that girls goes through when they are raped. No matter what law is passed and what punishment is granted, rape can never be eliminated unless rapists exercise self-control.
I don’t get the idea of movies showing rape scenes. According to me it doesn’t make any sense. Rape scenes should be banned in movies. These rape scenes clearly show that men can exercise control over women. May be this is also in some way helping the rapists. Passing a single law or legislation or holding committees or giving death sentences can never eliminate rape. As we all know how death sentences are given in India. If the amount of time and money spent on deciding whether to give death sentence to Kasab is any indication then you can imagine what would be the case in these rape incidents.
Women deserve respect and it’s a shame that they have to fight for it even today.