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End of Humanity?

Posted: December 21, 2012 by Ankita in Opinions
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Guest post by @Dravidict on how Humanity is seeing an end.

Friends, Indians, Country women/men lend me your eyes. I come here not to praise the girl for her fight, her spirit, body of whose was raped & but not her soul. I am here to question her…

She lies before us on the ventilator and asks “I just went for a movie with a friend what wrong have I done?”

She has done wrong by travelling at night, going out with a male friend how could she? How could she forget that the men who raped her felt this is wrong and the next day though people will stand by her, no one will question the men coz all men are honorable men.

She says “I came to Delhi to become a doctor, to cure people, to fulfill my parents’ dream, a dream for which they sold their land” Being a woman how could she have dreams? How could she make a career? How could she being a girl be independent? Like seriously didn’t know that our society asks for women equality, women freedom but when it is happening then men find it hitting their ego, men like I said earlier are all honorable men.

She asks “We weren’t getting transport so we boarded that bus, was that our fault too?” Yes had she not heard/learnt in school or at home never trust strangers? She then asks “but they were my countrymen”?  Countrymen? They were a breed of men who think from below their belt & felt it’s their right to play with a girl who they felt was “disrespecting” them & they are honorable men

She then asks “What could have stopped all this”? The bus shouldn’t have been tinted & not have curtains could have been her only savior.

She has a drop of tear falling of her eye & says “So is it my fault that I was born a girl?” Yes that’s right that’s where she’s made the biggest mistake being born as a girl who wanted to make a career, become a doctor, serve the society which would include men too, make her parents proud, prove that a daughter too can be a son but then the men who raped her wanted to prove that a woman is always second to a man. She can’t have dreams, aspirations, independence like a man & that’s why we have so many honorable men.

I don’t know her, haven’t met her, don’t even know her name, my only relationship with her is News Channels but I feel she’s a friend, a sister & I feel for her.

This is not an incident of today, this isn’t the first or the last harassment a woman has gone through. For centuries in our society we have exploited women. Women always have had to go through agni pareeksha, litmus test to prove they were pure or worthy for a man. A man never had to go through any of this. During the days of royalty, men used to marry in order to annex the princess’s kingdom without shedding any blood and like this they went on marrying many women, no one judged them.

We always see a man can publicly humiliate a woman, but if a woman utters even a word against a man in public then she is made to pay for it (not rape) but is made to feel the inferior person. A man can argue but if a woman argues then questions are raised on her upbringing.

A man can have a wife at home & hangout with a girl friend outside he’s complimented with the tag of “rangeela mizaaz” or a Casanova but if a girl is out with her brother or husband at night people think she is a toy which some people feel they have a right to play with. (Remember the Marriot incident?)

Why do men think that women are always supposed to satisfy them? Why is it that if a man sees a woman on the road then thinks he has every right to satisfy his lust? WHY???  If a girl resists then she must be taught a lesson, if she argues then punished, if tries to show her independence then she should be brought to her place. What is all this?????? Am not saying all men are devils but they surely are outnumbering the men who may be angels in nature. Kenan & Reuban tried to save a girl but no one helped them & they died. For whose fault? For doing the right thing?

Today we hear news of 6 months old baby raped, 5 year old kid raped. What wrong have they done? What lesson are you planning to teach them? Why do we always hide the demonish act of men & ask the women/girls/kids to compromise in order not to dilute the fabric of the family/society?  What “fabric” of family/society are we talking about??

We go to Vaishno Devi, worship Durga Ma, Santoshi Ma, Shera Waali maata, Sita Ma, Parvati Ma, Lakshmi Ma, Saraswati Ma, even when a girl cooks for the first time she’s called “Annapurna” then how can we worship them in the temple and show disrespect outside?

People say it’s the influence of movies that has made sex an object & has made men want more of it. So what you mean is that people seek inspiration from movies like The Dirty Picture but become blind to stories like Gangajal?  So we are society that attracts to anything which has SEX to it? Is that our culture?

Rape is a symptom of a disorder that our society has always been suffering with disrespecting to/ harassment of women which comes in many ways & we may pass new laws of severe punishment, chemical castration but what if tomorrow you have more cases of rape & murder? How will you ever find the culprit? If rapes happen within doors of a house then how will police stop such cases from occurring?

We surely need to set a precedent of fear & these men need to given the most severe punishment not because this girl deserves justice but because every girl/woman who has gone through such trauma deserves this. We have to ensure that media doesn’t remove its foot of the peddle & make this become a story of TRP, coz till the media is active she will get justice. At the same time we also need to change as a society, we need to make the women feel that when they are walking on the road they are safe, we need to respect them.

Why do we forget that God created Man then created woman & since then it’s the Woman who has given birth to mankind, she is the one who made this world & if the Mayan calendar (21/12/2012) is to be held true then metaphorically by showing disrespect, harassment to women we are bringing an end of the world. If you remember the movie 2012 then “the end of the World” begins in India & here again we are the ones who are playing the role of the destroyer.

Gandhiji fought for us as he believed we can teach the world humanity, the British Empire mocked at us calling us inhuman. Today we have proved them right & our father wrong.

It’s time for us to start a new India, where women are respected and cared not used objects or toys to be played with.

 Remember God & Devil are both within you it’s you who decides who dominates your soul.

 

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Guest post by Neha Chaudhary. She is a full-time dreamer who loves to strike a rhyme with the world and words, one at a time. A non-stop chatter-box on one hand and a pensive writer on the other. She blogs here.

I

Her father

the very girl you now stand on the grave of

Who faced the ferocity in an ordeal that lasted

an hour or so

They say.

The hour I have traversed seconds of

Hating myself

For not being her ‘Hero’ as she wished

For now standing as a spectator on the pieces of past with so much as a goodbye kiss

For giving my hand in support for her to walk while she still crawled

Had she not stepped out, woudn’t she be here after all?

For bringing her up in a world driven by lust and hunger

That gobbled up my precious

And incremented the slam piece toll by just a number.

In a diseased society where respect never walked

What was I thinking

How could it ever spare my doll?

Today they debate

How she was at fault

How clothes provoke

How the time was Rapist’s hour

How she shouldn’t have walked that road

Yes

The fault was hers

For she forgot she is a girl

And you are sex-deprived

For she was clad in her birthday dress

And that set erections sky-rise

For she forgot her Invisibility cloak home

And she was in your line of sight

For she would have screamed when you violated her

And to you it was a pleasurable sight.

I

The father

Of the child yet to open her eyes to the world

Of the little girl you see crawling in your house

Of the pretty princess you just dropped off to school

Of the ambitious recent-graduate ready to fly

Of the girl clad in red as someone’s bride

Of that old lady sitting alone in the park watching kids play

Urge you

To either burn down your vicious lust

Or face my wrath

For if you even see my girl as yours to take

I will hunt you down

I will terminate your breath.

You put your genesis to shame

And each man’s head hangs low for being one

You walk with a weapon in your pants

And she should be the one under restrictions?

Really???

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Guest post by an Anonymous Delhi guy who feels there is a deeper meaning to the act on Dec 16th. He thinks the humans have become dangerous animals & still need to evolve.

A lot has been said about the Dec 16th Delhi Rape Case.

Many have wondered how could one human rape another human. Many feel rape should invoke harsher punishments to be wiped off our psyche. Many have argued men should be better raised for this menace to be eradicated.

I’ve been pre-occupied with something completely different about this case. I am not so sure if it has been explored by all those who “talk” only when such incidents come forth to our notice.

I am talking about the animal violence that followed the otherwise ghastly act.

What is it about our genetics that makes us go over the top? Not just in the case of rape, take road rage for instance. When someone cuts us off while driving, not only do we get medieval by cutting them off at the risk of hurting others, we sometimes force them to stop their vehicle, beat them up, and then even as their near dead motionless body lies there, we kick it or shoot at it one last time just to satiate the animal inside us. That is eerily similar to what happened at around 9:30 pm on Dec 16th – not only did several men rape a girl, they then went on to physically damage her insides and then threw her off the bus. If there are many amongst us who would go overboard in the case of road rage, we must come to this disturbing conclusion that there are many amongst us who would have done the exact same thing as those evil men in the case of sexual rage.

I am not sure I have an answer to why it happened. But I am not sure if it can be cured by harsher punishments – heck if that were the case we’d have zero murders. I don’t even think better upbringing would wipe this off our psyches – heck if that were the case, we’d all be respecting our elders and be kind to children.

I think in the final analysis, one thing is very clear. Humans have not evolved as much as we’d like to think we have. The animal inside us is very much alive. And maybe it’s gotten even more dangerous. We’re now hunting amongst our kind.

And as long as that happens, none of us are safe from each other. Not women, not children, not men either. No one


Guest post by @pentropy who is disturbed and ashamed by the recent Delhi rape incident. Read on to know how it’s not about the gender, it’s about the values.

When India won the world cup last year, there were tears in our eyes. We are a nation fond of our nationalism. Prima facie, we are known to love our country. We are all aware of a lot of things that needs correction, however, we still continue to take pride in most of the soft aspects like culture, heritage, unity in diversity etc and stay blindfolded of the hard facts. Fair enough! We want to believe that we are a ‘great’ country.

I personally want to be subtle about my sarcasm but I am not left with an option. The recent heinous gang rape of a girl in a Delhi bus by four men has shook me left, right and center. We are all aware about the intricate details of the crime committed and have shown our anger through the various channels, so I would skip them. But, more than anger, I am left with a feeling of vacuum and helplessness as an individual.

Being part of the ‘Shining India’ era of this country, I am a highly confident individual with great sense of belief in my abilities. I believe that I can do all that I want to and add my bit of positive push to the homo sapiens evolution process. I believe that during my lifetime, I will contribute to the world and to my nation and thus I will justify this great opportunity of being born a human. But alas, I am disappointed with myself!

This incident makes me shout for the criminals’ head, their castration, a quick punishment, a better law system etc. Fair enough, that’s what logically should happen. However, I am totally blank on the question – ‘But what should I do about it?’. Well, till yesterday, I felt like a change maker and felt like bringing a significant upward thrust to the world. Today, I feel absolutely spineless and realize that there isn’t anything I can do to control the imbibed negative energies in and around me. And I can’t deny their existence.  And I continue to stare in void – unaware and weak.

But that takes me to the greatness of our culture and heritage. It is saddening to see the hypocrite reality that we live in. Rape is an extreme case and thus calls for our sudden anger, but overall how sensitive we are to our surroundings define us. And I believe that we aren’t. The problem is that we live in the denial of being a nation that is individual driven and not society driven. Some European quoted that Indians focus of themselves much more than the country and its visible from the fact that they have their houses clean and roads dirty.

But in my heart I am ashamed. I am a male who has spent a large part in this part of country. I am one of them. Though I am totally helpless but I am sorry.

I don’t have the answers.

Let’s NOT Rest! Reach the Media

Posted: December 19, 2012 by Ankita in Helpful Links
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Guest Blog post by @probablytrippy. This piece of writing is originally posted here & has been taken after permission. It gives details of all PR/Media contacts on Social networking sites and how few mins of our efforts can bring about a change. 

Rape in india is systemic – it is not a one off case here and there but a systematic abuse of women which can not be tolerated by any citizen.

Our individual anger will not make the government shift. We must make our voices heard, as one huge group. ANd we need to make sure the people who hear it can actually impact the national conversation.

One of the most important people our voice can influence is “Media”. Continual media coverage of rape in the country and systemic and judicial failures in addresing it will amplify our outrage, maybe even get the government to listen.

We will achieve this by (You can read the letter here)

–  continuous and vociferous communication of our anger to media decision makers and reporters using all social media outlets available to us.

– The demand for a specific publicly posted WRITTEN confirmation by a media channel to its viewers that a specific number of minutes in the newscycle to the heinous crime of rape, and to highlight points of systemic and judicial failures.

– The demand for specific publicly posted WRITTEN confirmation by a media channel to its viewers that special care will be taken with headlines/bugs/graphics that portray “woman as victim” rather than “man as violent aggresor”

If we get a critical mass in this, and the channel does not respond, we go on to step 2, hit them where it hurts, target their advertisers. And then, friends, they will have to listen.

But to get to step 2, we must reach a critical mass. We need to FLOOD their Facebook, their twitter, their websites, every place, with a CONSISTENT message, over and over again. Every day. They need to get hundreds

Below are some draft templates for tweets/FB posts/Comments that you can use. you can obviously change the wordings but DO remember to link back to our list of demands – i have kept them reasonable, actionable, and measurable – please lets not argue about whether it is enough or not – its a start.

Here is a list of mediafolk on twitter, to get you started

Twitter option (enough space to address @ someone)

FB post option/Comment option

You could also choose to simply share this post on your fb or twitter. all it takes is one click – surely you can do that much?