Posts Tagged ‘crime’


Guest post by Saurin Parikh, an advertising entrepreneur and a writer: 

It’s been nearly two weeks since the gang rape in Delhi, and the country remains abuzz with outrages & protests over the very unfortunate incident. In fact, calling it ‘unfortunate’ seems like an understatement. It just shouldn’t have happened. Rapes and sexual abuses of any kind shouldn’t happen even once, but the fact that they happen with such frequency is alarming and disheartening.

We can’t begin to fathom what goes through the mind of a man who rapes a woman. What is even more difficult to understand is what goes through the mind of the woman who is being raped. A rape leaves scars that cannot be seen and cannot be healed. No one else but the victim can know what these emotional scars feel like. Which is probably why we outage where we can.

However, it would be wrong if we stopped at merely outraging and protesting. People are taking to the streets and forcing the government out of inaction, but that’s never going to be enough. You and I are definitely not going to do anything that will change the apathetic behaviour of our police force or the selfish nature of our politicians, but what we can change is our own outlook.

We can stop being indifferent, and help someone in need. The girl fought with all her will, she received the finest medical treatment in India and even in Singapore, but to no avail. We woke up today morning to the news of her death, to the news of another blossoming life ending abruptly, and cruelly. There have been reports that she and her friend had been lying on the roads of Delhi after being thrown out of the bus for nearly 3 hours. I am appalled at the rapists, but I am more appalled at everybody else who saw them lying there but chose to ignore them. Why didn’t even one person help them? I am sure her life would have been saved if she had received medical attention sooner. In cases like these, a few minutes can make a world of a difference. She was left unattended for 3 hours.

We protest over the government inaction, we outrage over the mindset of the rapists, but we forget to blame those bystanders who didn’t help the girl when she needed it the most. What would you have done? Ordinarily, most of us would have chosen to look the other way as well. And this is exactly what we need to change.

Next time you come across a situation of eve teasing, physical abuse or harassment of any kind, don’t look the other way. We can stop ourselves from turning a blind eye to such situations, something that we usually do. It’ll be tough, we might get into a fight, we might get harassed by the police, we might be at the risk of causing harm to ourselves, but if we really want things to change, we have got to be the ones to initiate it. We can’t sit back and blame the government for not doing enough, we aren’t doing enough either.

A lot of crimes are committed because the culprit knows that in 9 cases out of 10, the victim will receive no help from the people around them. It’s time for us to bring that ratio down. Outrage on the internet as much as you want, protests on the streets as much as you can, but when faced with a real situation, make sure you help a probable victim from turning into a victim. That will be one less life ruined and one less incident to outrage about.

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Guest blog by Prashanth Kagali:
Rape means, “the crime, typically committed by a man, of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will.”
I am a positive person and would love to inspire people and get inspired from them. But I have no idea how to inspire a girl who is raped. I feel shame even to approach considering the resentment she would be having against men, which is perfectly right on her part.
When fathers are raping their own daughters, there is no way a girl can trust any man. Even animals would not do this kind of heinous act. As the above definition goes, rape is something that is forced onto another person, against their will. Being a guy if someone forces me to do a simple thing as eating something, which is against my will, I reject it in the strongest of terms. I may never understand what a girl goes through and how it feels for her when someone rapes her, but forcing someone against their will even for smallest of things is just not respecting that person what he or she is.
What needs to be done?
Enough is written about the Rape incidents and its good people are talking and writing more about it. We always have to address the root cause of any problem. Here is where the education comes into picture. Education means not only what is taught at school but also at home. Parents have to teach their male children how to respect girls and how to treat them.
If only these Rape incidents have to end, then every parent should handover their son, a rapist, to the police and ensure strict action is taken. Tell me, how many parents or sisters or brothers would treat their sons or brothers with the same anger as they treat with any other rapist? It’s all about taking a stand.
We cannot live peacefully in a world if one tries to dominate the other. It’s all about giving respect to the other sex. Men need to be educated about the pain that girls goes through when they are raped. No matter what law is passed and what punishment is granted, rape can never be eliminated unless rapists exercise self-control.
I don’t get the idea of movies showing rape scenes. According to me it doesn’t make any sense. Rape scenes should be banned in movies. These rape scenes clearly show that men can exercise control over women. May be this is also in some way helping the rapists. Passing a single law or legislation or holding committees or giving death sentences can never eliminate rape. As we all know how death sentences are given in India. If the amount of time and money spent on deciding whether to give death sentence to Kasab is any indication then you can imagine what would be the case in these rape incidents.
Women deserve respect and it’s a shame that they have to fight for it even today.

Guest post by Anushree Kejriwal:

 

Amidst the simmering anger I try writing this post hoping that the flame won’t extinguish. So the rapes continue to happen, candle light marches, silent protests (the entire concept is a farce in my opinion though), blogs and demand for castration for the rapists. I totally second the latter though. It has happened and the enormity of the situation has probably ensured that the government wakes up.

Indeed it has. Politicians are flocking in to meet the lady, open letters are being written but introspection level is zero.

I don’t intend to blame anyone; I feel I am responsible for myself. Like me there are many others who are staying away from their loved ones in order to make a career for themselves. Our parents are constantly nagging us by commanding do this do that, in short do everything to protect yourself.

What we need is public support. Small incidents (according to the administration) like ‘eve teasing’ should be dealt with stronger steps. I do not mean that the police should necessarily be involved.

If someone is stalking or teasing you, create a scene. God has blessed you with a tongue, use it. He has given you two hands, use it. Shout in public. The public is a conglomerate of a variety of people: few are deaf, few are ignorant and a few are genuinely helpful. Let’s just ignore the two former cases and try harnessing the latter category.

Many women use the Metro for daily commuting, and prefer travelling in ladies’ coach than the general one. The myth that it’s safe is well just a myth. I often see men acting like bees, pushing themselves into the coach trying to catch a glimpse of the flowers for some honey. No one stops them because everybody is too busy with earphones plugged into their ears. That’s where we give a hint that we are weak.

The moment you raise your voice and protest, you will see the opposite sex simmering down. If someone is trying to “feel you”, be bold enough to make sure that the soles of your sandal feel his head. I repeat, harness the public’s energy. Mao said that revolution without bloodshed is impossible. Times have changed so we don’t need to shed blood, but we need to shed the cloak around us. Raise your voice once and see the difference. You will feel stronger and make the opposite sex feel weaker.

We are girls and not mules. No incident is small, even a simple case of “eve-teasing” should be dealt with harsh usage of words and sandals.

What happened to the Delhi gang rape survivor [and millions like her] was unfortunate and cannot be reversed but what may happen in the future can very well be prevented. Be responsible for your own self and see to how others acknowledge your importance. Whenever required shout, abuse and use your hands and sandals judiciously.


Guest post by an Anonymous Delhi guy who feels there is a deeper meaning to the act on Dec 16th. He thinks the humans have become dangerous animals & still need to evolve.

A lot has been said about the Dec 16th Delhi Rape Case.

Many have wondered how could one human rape another human. Many feel rape should invoke harsher punishments to be wiped off our psyche. Many have argued men should be better raised for this menace to be eradicated.

I’ve been pre-occupied with something completely different about this case. I am not so sure if it has been explored by all those who “talk” only when such incidents come forth to our notice.

I am talking about the animal violence that followed the otherwise ghastly act.

What is it about our genetics that makes us go over the top? Not just in the case of rape, take road rage for instance. When someone cuts us off while driving, not only do we get medieval by cutting them off at the risk of hurting others, we sometimes force them to stop their vehicle, beat them up, and then even as their near dead motionless body lies there, we kick it or shoot at it one last time just to satiate the animal inside us. That is eerily similar to what happened at around 9:30 pm on Dec 16th – not only did several men rape a girl, they then went on to physically damage her insides and then threw her off the bus. If there are many amongst us who would go overboard in the case of road rage, we must come to this disturbing conclusion that there are many amongst us who would have done the exact same thing as those evil men in the case of sexual rage.

I am not sure I have an answer to why it happened. But I am not sure if it can be cured by harsher punishments – heck if that were the case we’d have zero murders. I don’t even think better upbringing would wipe this off our psyches – heck if that were the case, we’d all be respecting our elders and be kind to children.

I think in the final analysis, one thing is very clear. Humans have not evolved as much as we’d like to think we have. The animal inside us is very much alive. And maybe it’s gotten even more dangerous. We’re now hunting amongst our kind.

And as long as that happens, none of us are safe from each other. Not women, not children, not men either. No one


Guest post by @pentropy who is disturbed and ashamed by the recent Delhi rape incident. Read on to know how it’s not about the gender, it’s about the values.

When India won the world cup last year, there were tears in our eyes. We are a nation fond of our nationalism. Prima facie, we are known to love our country. We are all aware of a lot of things that needs correction, however, we still continue to take pride in most of the soft aspects like culture, heritage, unity in diversity etc and stay blindfolded of the hard facts. Fair enough! We want to believe that we are a ‘great’ country.

I personally want to be subtle about my sarcasm but I am not left with an option. The recent heinous gang rape of a girl in a Delhi bus by four men has shook me left, right and center. We are all aware about the intricate details of the crime committed and have shown our anger through the various channels, so I would skip them. But, more than anger, I am left with a feeling of vacuum and helplessness as an individual.

Being part of the ‘Shining India’ era of this country, I am a highly confident individual with great sense of belief in my abilities. I believe that I can do all that I want to and add my bit of positive push to the homo sapiens evolution process. I believe that during my lifetime, I will contribute to the world and to my nation and thus I will justify this great opportunity of being born a human. But alas, I am disappointed with myself!

This incident makes me shout for the criminals’ head, their castration, a quick punishment, a better law system etc. Fair enough, that’s what logically should happen. However, I am totally blank on the question – ‘But what should I do about it?’. Well, till yesterday, I felt like a change maker and felt like bringing a significant upward thrust to the world. Today, I feel absolutely spineless and realize that there isn’t anything I can do to control the imbibed negative energies in and around me. And I can’t deny their existence.  And I continue to stare in void – unaware and weak.

But that takes me to the greatness of our culture and heritage. It is saddening to see the hypocrite reality that we live in. Rape is an extreme case and thus calls for our sudden anger, but overall how sensitive we are to our surroundings define us. And I believe that we aren’t. The problem is that we live in the denial of being a nation that is individual driven and not society driven. Some European quoted that Indians focus of themselves much more than the country and its visible from the fact that they have their houses clean and roads dirty.

But in my heart I am ashamed. I am a male who has spent a large part in this part of country. I am one of them. Though I am totally helpless but I am sorry.

I don’t have the answers.