Posts Tagged ‘female infanticide’

क्या दुआ मांगू ? क्या दुआ मांगू …

दुर्गा माँ के गौरवशाली देश की बेटियों के लिए …

जहाँ जन्मदाता घोंट देते है छोटी सी जान की ज़िन्दगी …

शेर पर नहीं बैठी है कन्या जहाँ …माँ की गोद भी नसीब न हुई …

 क्या दुआ मांगू ? क्या दुआ मांगू …

सरस्वती माँ के उत्कृष्ट  देश की बेटियों के लिए?

जहाँ पालनहार फेर लेते हैं मुंह कूड़े के ढेर में फेंक कर …

वीणा नहीं है हाथ में …कलम भी छीन ली नन्हे हाथों से …


क्या दुआ मांगू ? क्या दुआ मांगू …

झांसी की रानी की मिटटी पे पली-बड़ी बेटियाँ …

झुका  के सर चलती हैं …फेंक देते हैं तेज़ाब …

नोच लेते हैं आँचल …अपने भी रखते है दुशासन सी नज़र …

क्या दुआ मांगू ?


आज भी नारी अग्नि में जलती है सीता मय्या … चंद पैसों के लिए …

आज भी भरी भीड़ में हर लेते हैं चीर द्रौपदी का … कहाँ हो … कान्हा …

सौ सौ बलिदान देकर अपने सर के …सर ढक कर चली …

कब तक ? …कब तक ? क्या दुआ मांगू ?



National Girl Child Day was on January 24. It is no coincidence that we have a ‘ Girl Child Day’ and a ‘Women’s’ Day’ but no ‘days’ for boys/men. The boys need not feel disappointed; it means they, as a species, are not in danger. See, the basic idea behind having special days are for things which are in danger, so we have Women’s Day, Earth Day, Plantation Day and of course Girl Child Day. We have campaigns for the same reason, Save Tiger Campaign, Save the Sunderbans, Save the Rainforests of Africa, Save the Butterflies, Save the girl child.
What comes to my mind is that all these campaigns have failed, tigers almost extinct, it’s been ages since I saw a butterfly or a frog outside of a ‘protected environment’, Earth is slowly but surely choking to death, Forest cover is decreasing on a daily basis, so it will be with the girls.
Girls need to be safe and wanted, if we want humanity to survive , if … there is no compulsion, from what I have seen of humans there is actually no harm in letting it die.
There are many who believe that we don’t need a Women’s Day or A Girl Child Day. Women are equal to men and have made their mark in the world in all spheres. It is asked what more do we want?
Let me attempt to tell you.
I want the unborn girl child to be safe and get a chance to be born. There are six million missing girls and the number is increasing every year. I want doctors who conduct gender tests and abort female fetuses to be convicted.
I want the baby girl a chance to live as equally as her brother, have the same food and privileges of sleep and work and schooling. I want the young girl to be given equal chance to study and play, not become a mother to her younger siblings at a tender age as her own mother is further burdened by continuous childbirth.
I want her to study till she becomes capable of financial independence and understands herself. I want her to have toilets at her school so that she does not have to stay home due to this basic need.
I want her to have a choice of marriage, not that she be foisted on to the first ‘suitable’ man who is willing to take her with an affordable dowry. I want her t be wanted for herself not for the money, material goods she will bring. I want her to be loved and respected in her ‘new’ home not abused, tortured and burnt for greed.
I want her parents to support her if she decides to leave an abusive marriage, not push her to stay for social acceptance and then stare in grief at her dead body hanging from the ceiling fan.
I want her to be loved and respected as a daughter, wife and mother, not as a package foisted from father to husband to son. I want her to be respected for what she is, not for what she earns or does.
And more than anything I want her to be safe, safe from physical abuse and harassment. From a six month old baby girl to a seventy-five year old woman, no female is safe. And rape occurs within the boundaries of the known. And she is told to keep quiet for family honour.
I want her to be free to make choices… to be happy… to ….
I want …. I want ….
Is all this too much to want? 

Guest Post by Tanmay Mehta:

The male-chauvinist pigs, that most Indian men are, time and again prove that they are an embarrassment to the human race. They pick their nose in public, they eat disgusting things like gutkha, tobacco and pan and paint any and every area with it and they urinate just about anywhere. They are untidy and filthy. Now many would disagree, try to argue that they are not untidy and filthy, that they are rather very well-mannered and very presentable. May be… But inside every man’s mind there is filth, dirt, grime and grunge. Not only are they disgusting, they all are rapists! 

As offending as it may seem, its the truth. They are all rapists because rape is not only about forced sexual intercourse but physical harassment such as groping & eve-teasing as well. We know enough cases through the media to know that rapes and molestation cases are alarmingly high in India, with its capital, Delhi, also being termed as the Rape Capital. In India, every 26 minutes, a woman is molested; every 34 minutes, a woman is raped; every 42 minutes, an incident of sexual harassment takes place. Let us do the math… in a year, 20215 women are molested, 15459 women are raped and 12514 women are sexually harassed. Thats one shameful stat!

Now, you would say that you never raped, molested or sexually harassed any one. And I would ask you to reconsider. Every minute, some girl is groped in a crowded bus, inappropriately touched by a friend or relative, eve-teased and demeaned by shameless pricks. These acts of sexual harassment are done by otherwise decent men. 

Now, a few of you would still say that you never sexually harassed or violated a woman. And I would ask you again to reconsider. By my guess, 98 percent of Indians, men and women alike, feel that women are raped, molested or sexually harassed because of the way they dress, they talk or the way they behave. And those who feel so, are the rapists to be. Because, one fine day, their judgmental small minds would conclude that a skimpy dress, a sweet talk or a friendly hug is an ‘invitation’ and they would do everything possible to honour the ‘invite’. 

And so I say all Indian men are rapists, with, of course, a few honourable exceptions.  This small minority of Indian men, who actually are well-mannered, presentable, nonjudgmental and open-minded individuals, are passive and silent to all the ill-doing and garbage-thinking around them. But I admire those that stand up for women and have even died in an act of protecting women in need.

So all my rapist friends out there, I’m sure you would like to get rid of the rapist tag. But in order to do that you need to show some maturity in the way you think. These are some guidelines in order to not be a rapist: 

Firstly, with regards to not being an actual rapist or molester: 
1. Its okay if you die a virgin. 
2. You can buy a book on self-help. 
3. Rape and molestation are crimes. You would be jailed, if not killed by the victim or an angry mob. 
4. A sexually-transmitted disease might easily get transmitted in the act, as obviously, you won’t have the time or sense to use a condom then. 
5. Molestation and rape dont prove your masculinity. They just reiterate the fact that you are a wuss. 
Secondly, with regards to not being a sexual harasser: 
1. Acts like blind-groping, eve-teasing, indecent-touching are disgusting acts of the weak. 
2. The pleasure therein is miniscule, but makes you an ugly person, and demeans a human being. Thus, its not worth it. 
3. There’s a fine line between appreciating someone and demeaning someone. The next time, you like a girl, don’t whistle. May be, if you have the balls for it, then approach the girl and tell her with utmost respect and without any expectations that you like her and get the hell out of there. If she feels the same about you she would do something about it, if not, don’t bother her again. 
Finally, with regards to not being a potential rapist: 
1. If you roam around without a shirt, and even if you have great muscles, no girl would try to molest you. Same is expected from you. A girl wears certain clothes in certain way because thats her fashion sense, thats the way she likes to see herself. It in no way signifies that she wants you to do her. Even if you find a girl without any clothes (hypothetically), it must mean that either she’s too poor to have clothes or she’s a nudist. And if she actually wants you to do her, she will just tell you. Dont worry, she has that much guts. 
2. Just because a girl drinks and/or smokes, it does not mean that she sleeps around. That’s just your wishful thinking. Same is the case with a girl going to a disco or such other place. 
3. Just because a girl is in multiple relationships, allegedly or otherwise, it does not mean that she can’t say no to you. Even a prostitute has every right to deny. So don’t feed yourself the moral crap of she deserves it and shit! 
4.Don’t be judgemental of peoples characters. You dont know shit about what goes on in their minds and in their lives. 

I hope, we Indian men, pick ourselves up, and treat women with respect and dignity. Lets re-inspire the genesis of chivalry.