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This link was forwarded on my Twitter account. Important laws have been mentioned that we must all learn by heart.


All the sections of the Indian Penal Code, 1860 mentioned below are the ones under which (according to media reports) the Guwahati goons have been booked; all these sections of the IPC are bailable, that is, the accused have the right to be released on bail, and that the accused need not be forwarded to a court to seek bail, an officer in-charge of a police station can bail them out after seeking a personal bond and/or surety from them. Even some traffic violations are looked at more seriously by the law….more at link below

Molest, And Get Away | Women’s Web: Online Community For Indian Women.

Guest post by Dhruv Gaur:

An old Indian proverb lies down that a home without a daughter is like a body without soul.

Maa kai anchal se lipatkar roti hai wo sisakti hai…..
Mat kar mujko apne se alag …ye baat wo har pal kehti hai….
Teri chavi mai duniya me ayi hoon….
Us janam ka nata tha jo…teri god mai payi hoon

Beti hai to kal hai.

Following are some of the news items posted by members on our Facebook Group, Justice For Women

  1. Teacher gets jail for cutting girl’s hair 
  2. Indore man fastens wife’s vagina with a lock, arrested
  3. Guwahati case: The questions about the fateful night of July 10
  4. Minor Muslim girl gang raped in Mewat; culprits at large
  5. Assaulted Dalit woman dies at hospital
  6. Rescued from kidnappers, girl raped by cops in UP
  7. Sexual assault likely to attract life imprisonment
  8. YouTube unveils face-blurring tool

The more I read up on news about crime against women, in India or abroad, I can’t help but think where is this world going.

How can we make it stop? Can we at all make it stop? If we can, why don’t we? If we want to, what are we waiting for? Let’s do it!!

Guest post by Suvarna Menon:

The Guwahati case has shaken the nation just as Twitter was ablaze with shouts of disapproval at Sherlyn Chopra’s nude photos. As a fellow Twitter user @Urban_Sanyaasi rightly pointed out at the time, “Sherlyn Chopra on one side, Guwahati incident on the other. Perspective cannot be gained more objectively. A voluntary baring. A violation.” We speak of a nation with values, customs and traditions intact; a nation of people who are up-in-arms at the thought of ‘indecency’ or ‘inappropriateness’ and who are easily scandalized by skin-show even when it is voluntary. However, in the face of real crimes including violence against women like in the cases of rape, molestation and harassment of women, the perpetrators of the crimes escape unnoticed. The onus is inadvertently on the woman – for being in the wrong place at the wrong time, for arousing lust in the man, for being ‘inappropriately dressed’ – the list is endless.

As concerned people, we can blame the media for objectifying women, we can continue to raise our voices against men who engage in such appalling acts of crime, or we can sit helplessly in our living rooms, watching on as the news worsens each day. We can talk of respecting women at an intellectual level, but lasting effects can only be brought about by engaging in discussion and changing attitudes beginning inside our own homes.

As a father, do you tell your daughter to dress appropriately and not ‘ask for trouble’ because you ‘know what boys are’? Or do you encourage her to be an independent, empowered woman who can stand up for herself and speak up against injustice? As a woman, do you think girls who wear short skirts or ‘revealing clothes’ deserve it any more than boys who wear shorts do? We have spent years teaching our women how to protect themselves, prevent themselves from being noticed or prevent themselves from attracting attention. We are now at a stage where most women are professional working women and are most certainly in the limelight. But can we as a nation make this a safe space for them to explore their creative talents, aspirations and dreams, rather than making them feel threatened and insecure about their achievements?

By all means raise your sons to respect women, but stimulate discussions which make them realize that women are humans and equals that are worthy of respect, rather than a false sense of respect emerging out of pity or a macho need to ‘protect’ them because they are a ‘weaker’ sex. Raise your children to speak up for justice for both sexes. Make your parents believe in equality of sexes and allow it to translate in your own interactions with the opposite sex.

If you believe you are a man who respects women, and you still come home and lie back on the couch, asking her to serve you dinner while you watch the news in ‘horror’ at the atrocities committed against women, you are not fooling anyone. Similarly, as a woman, if you generalize all behavior and spew hatred towards all men, you will achieve nothing.

Examine your own thoughts, challenge your own attitudes towards the two sexes. Critique your parents’ attitudes, and stimulate change around by encouraging rational discourse and pointing out flaws in people’s thought process. Only then can we hope for a better tomorrow. The change begins with you.

Guest Post by Tanmay Mehta:

The male-chauvinist pigs, that most Indian men are, time and again prove that they are an embarrassment to the human race. They pick their nose in public, they eat disgusting things like gutkha, tobacco and pan and paint any and every area with it and they urinate just about anywhere. They are untidy and filthy. Now many would disagree, try to argue that they are not untidy and filthy, that they are rather very well-mannered and very presentable. May be… But inside every man’s mind there is filth, dirt, grime and grunge. Not only are they disgusting, they all are rapists! 

As offending as it may seem, its the truth. They are all rapists because rape is not only about forced sexual intercourse but physical harassment such as groping & eve-teasing as well. We know enough cases through the media to know that rapes and molestation cases are alarmingly high in India, with its capital, Delhi, also being termed as the Rape Capital. In India, every 26 minutes, a woman is molested; every 34 minutes, a woman is raped; every 42 minutes, an incident of sexual harassment takes place. Let us do the math… in a year, 20215 women are molested, 15459 women are raped and 12514 women are sexually harassed. Thats one shameful stat!

Now, you would say that you never raped, molested or sexually harassed any one. And I would ask you to reconsider. Every minute, some girl is groped in a crowded bus, inappropriately touched by a friend or relative, eve-teased and demeaned by shameless pricks. These acts of sexual harassment are done by otherwise decent men. 

Now, a few of you would still say that you never sexually harassed or violated a woman. And I would ask you again to reconsider. By my guess, 98 percent of Indians, men and women alike, feel that women are raped, molested or sexually harassed because of the way they dress, they talk or the way they behave. And those who feel so, are the rapists to be. Because, one fine day, their judgmental small minds would conclude that a skimpy dress, a sweet talk or a friendly hug is an ‘invitation’ and they would do everything possible to honour the ‘invite’. 

And so I say all Indian men are rapists, with, of course, a few honourable exceptions.  This small minority of Indian men, who actually are well-mannered, presentable, nonjudgmental and open-minded individuals, are passive and silent to all the ill-doing and garbage-thinking around them. But I admire those that stand up for women and have even died in an act of protecting women in need.

So all my rapist friends out there, I’m sure you would like to get rid of the rapist tag. But in order to do that you need to show some maturity in the way you think. These are some guidelines in order to not be a rapist: 

Firstly, with regards to not being an actual rapist or molester: 
1. Its okay if you die a virgin. 
2. You can buy a book on self-help. 
3. Rape and molestation are crimes. You would be jailed, if not killed by the victim or an angry mob. 
4. A sexually-transmitted disease might easily get transmitted in the act, as obviously, you won’t have the time or sense to use a condom then. 
5. Molestation and rape dont prove your masculinity. They just reiterate the fact that you are a wuss. 
Secondly, with regards to not being a sexual harasser: 
1. Acts like blind-groping, eve-teasing, indecent-touching are disgusting acts of the weak. 
2. The pleasure therein is miniscule, but makes you an ugly person, and demeans a human being. Thus, its not worth it. 
3. There’s a fine line between appreciating someone and demeaning someone. The next time, you like a girl, don’t whistle. May be, if you have the balls for it, then approach the girl and tell her with utmost respect and without any expectations that you like her and get the hell out of there. If she feels the same about you she would do something about it, if not, don’t bother her again. 
Finally, with regards to not being a potential rapist: 
1. If you roam around without a shirt, and even if you have great muscles, no girl would try to molest you. Same is expected from you. A girl wears certain clothes in certain way because thats her fashion sense, thats the way she likes to see herself. It in no way signifies that she wants you to do her. Even if you find a girl without any clothes (hypothetically), it must mean that either she’s too poor to have clothes or she’s a nudist. And if she actually wants you to do her, she will just tell you. Dont worry, she has that much guts. 
2. Just because a girl drinks and/or smokes, it does not mean that she sleeps around. That’s just your wishful thinking. Same is the case with a girl going to a disco or such other place. 
3. Just because a girl is in multiple relationships, allegedly or otherwise, it does not mean that she can’t say no to you. Even a prostitute has every right to deny. So don’t feed yourself the moral crap of she deserves it and shit! 
4.Don’t be judgemental of peoples characters. You dont know shit about what goes on in their minds and in their lives. 

I hope, we Indian men, pick ourselves up, and treat women with respect and dignity. Lets re-inspire the genesis of chivalry.