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Dear Son

What did we do wrong? We brought you up to be a nice boy.We gave you morals and values.
As a child you always came first in class, your mother used to prepare your favourite dishes. Your sister was not that good in studies but always helped around the house.
You were a bit naughty but that’s okay. Boys are a little naughty. Always leaving your clothes strewn around, your mother and sister were forever picking up after you. But you were not a bad boy.
Remember, you beat up that boy when you were in class XI because he teased your sister on the way back from school? You also got a cut on your cheek but we were proud of you.
What happened? Your poor mother is sick with worry, she is sure there is some story behind this.
When we saw your face on that video we could not believe it!
Please tell me it is not you tearing the clothes off that girl. Please tell me its not you, smiling, as he molests a young girl on the street. Please tell me I have not failed as a parent , as a father! Please tell me What did we do wrong
An Anguished father

I don’t want to write, not a single word.
I want to say that there is nothing more to be said, after the Guwahati incident.
But unfortunately, we will move on. Even this shameful terrifying incident will not change anything.
We will close this chapter and again read feverishly about girls getting scholarships, flying aeroplanes and breaking the glass ceiling.
We will want desperately to believe that all this is the truth and will lull ourselves into this belief.
For a while , till another ‘Guwahati’ happens.
Because it will.
And this time we cannot blame the government, too bad but there it is.
We have only ourselves to blame so naturally that door is closed, as we are cowards.
Mental cowards who cannot face the truth and physical cowards who cannot protect the weak.
Women are not weak per se I want to say this but can’t in all truthfulness.
Deterioration of status of women is being seen and felt by each one of us.
I have always maintained that the day is not far off when women will become commodities again.
Don’t think!
Don’t introspect!
Don’t analyse!
Just STOP accepting the unacceptable right now.

Otherwise be prepared for the return of auction block and sale of women as slaves.

  1. Husband adopts wife’s name
  2. Indore: Woman drugged, sold for R 1.10 lakh by husband and in-laws
  3. Patna: Woman teacher beaten to death
  4. Sexual assault bill okayed by Cabinet covers most forms of exploitation
Any news we should be aware of? Do pass on the links on our Twitter account, Facebook group or in the comments section.

Following are some of the news items posted by members on our Facebook Group, Justice For Women

  1. Teacher gets jail for cutting girl’s hair 
  2. Indore man fastens wife’s vagina with a lock, arrested
  3. Guwahati case: The questions about the fateful night of July 10
  4. Minor Muslim girl gang raped in Mewat; culprits at large
  5. Assaulted Dalit woman dies at hospital
  6. Rescued from kidnappers, girl raped by cops in UP
  7. Sexual assault likely to attract life imprisonment
  8. YouTube unveils face-blurring tool

The more I read up on news about crime against women, in India or abroad, I can’t help but think where is this world going.

How can we make it stop? Can we at all make it stop? If we can, why don’t we? If we want to, what are we waiting for? Let’s do it!!

Guest Post by Anubhav Deka:
To the people of Guwahati (Authorities, Police and Public),
I am a 16 year old boy from Don Bosco School.This is my first letter to the authorities, the police and the general public at large and this is an open letter. I do not mind if people spread under their name but I do mind it when they will change the message of this letter.

On the night of July 10th, I became ashamed to call myself a part of the male community and was also convinced of the presence of some really antisocial elements in our city of Guwahati. What they have done to the poor girl is unforgivable and most of them are still at large. Who knows what they have done next. Who knows what they have done before this. A girl, roughly of my age, was put to shame in public. And her fault? She was out at night wearing mini jeans. The men who did this act are vile creatures fit for the worst kind of punishment. And why such objection to girls wearing westernized clothes? YOU are wearing them. I am wearing them. EVERYONE is . Are the girls second class citizens that their clothing has to be monitored? Do they not have choices? Feelings? Are they different from males? Do they have three legs or something?

Now, I have another question to all my male counterparts who at some point in their lives have contributed in eve teasing, whether in jest or not. If I tease your sister, wife, friend, well-wisher, girlfriend, would you spare me? Of course not. You would lunge at my throat and not hesitate to kill me. Now, think. Put YOURSELVES into their shoes. How must they have felt? More importantly,the victim, think about her. What would she do now? Do you think she’ll be okay after this? How can you let this happen? Do you not have a conscious? Did it occur to you, in the very least, you were doing something wrong? Are you people retarded?

Then, to the part which will ENSURE that these kind of things will keep happening. In a city so large, in an area so busy, in a place where police patrols are more profusely situated then cow droppings, did not ANYONE hear her pleas? Are you made of stone? I mean what kind of useless people are you, if you can’t help a girl who is of the age of maybe your sisters? Are you blind, deaf and dumb as well as retarded?

And to the authorities, politely putting it. DO SOMETHING USEFUL! ARREST THE GODDAMN CULPRINTS! ARRST THE GODDAMN JOURNALIST!! ARE YOU SO USELESS, MR. CM , that you will smile and wave and expect us to forget it? YOU ARE WRONG.

And to the victim, we, the youth are with you. You will not feel lonely. Today I saw your interview. You said you wanted a safe house for now. You can drop by our home any time, even at the middle of the night. You will always find a comforting hand, a listening ear, a cozy bed and a warm meal for you. THE YOUTH IS BACKING YOU, Mousumi. We are with you. Do not lose heart and youl get justice. We pledge ourselves to that and to all the wronged women in the country. 


~Anubhav Deka